So here in Seattle (and I am SURE all around the world) we have some {gay} clubs that enjoying having Underwear Nights. Now of course this will sound overly sexual to many people. Other people will stick with their beliefs that most people going to underwear nights are probably “not the ones you want to see if underwear”. To both of those I say, BULLSHIT.
Okay, so you like, love, or enjoy underwear so why not go to an underwear night? They give you a chance to show off your newest or best pair in a comfortable, controlled setting. How better to discover new brands or styles then when you’re having a drink with friends or new friends at a bar?
Let’s talk nerves. Yes, it can be incredibly nerve-wracking. You are electing to shed everything, well almost everything, to a bar full of people. Talk about exposed. Remember, you’re not alone in this. It can be uncomfortable at first and maybe it will take time to feel natural again but I promise it is worth it. And of course it is always the moment right before that’s the most scary. Either right before entering the club, right before deciding to go. Or right before having to take off that first piece of clothing. Breath, take one moment, and then do it!
It can be an amazing rush to ultimately become confident and strong by making yourself vulnerable to everyone there. It’s one of those funny conundrums of life that an act of exposure and openness can make you the most whole and invincible. Will you still fidget, adjust, check and double check? Of course but that’s no problem, we all do it.
Sexuality and sexual energy does not need to have anything to do with the night. Oddly, think of it as a form of natural, nudism. Yhe point is not to hook up the point is to spend an evening with fairly likeminded people just being you. Our undies are a form of self-expression and that does not need to be sexual in nature. At these nights one often just ends up chatting with friends or strangers. Rnjoying a strongly poured cocktail or two and just being.
As to the people who assume that “the ones in their underwear are not the ones you’d want to see in their underwear.” all I can say to them is, “you’re an asshole”.
I like to believe that for every one in their underwear. Rhere is someone out there that wants to see them in their underwear. Perhaps the people that say that are just self-conscience or scared. Perhaps they are so closed minded that what they think of as an attractive person is the only kind. Either way, it’s too bad for them because they are missing out on a great experience.
This last weekend I went to back to back underwear nights in Seattle. One was at a bar I had never been to and the other was a city staple for this kind of night. I had a blast at both. Everything from the selection process of the underwear, to the meeting up with friends, to the hanging out and being just completely comfortable was great. Plus, getting compliments on my undies was a hoot as well (this weekend was all about CellBlock13 and PUMP! for me). I also saw some new styles I had not seen before and that was a thrill as well.
So, underwear nights, I say try it. I say go for it. I say have a blast. Remember, so many of us love and cherish our underwear for how it makes us feel. Getting to put that out there for everyone to see is empowering. Be brave, be bold, be you…in undies…at the bar
