How to keep your confidence when you don’t feel good in undies

We all can’t be an underwear supermodel all the time. We go through phases where we put on weight and look at ourselves in the mirror and go “I just can’t today.’ We hate what we see in the mirror. The underwear doesn’t even look like the pair we bought. It’s like someone broke in and switched out all of your underwear for a few sizes too small. Sometimes we wear it anyway and other times we just put on something quick.

So what do you do when you don’t feel your best either short or long term? I am going through that now and want to share some wisdom with you guys.

You have the power to change it

If you are able and healthy, you have the power to change both your physical and mental well being. Sometimes its short-term like holiday pounds and other times it revolves around just getting through life. You have to buckle down and do what is important to you. I personally have reached the point in my life, I want to change things. I weigh probably the most I have ever weighed and it sucks. I had a lot going on and didn’t want to deal with what was in the mirror. But, it doesn’t go away. I had to realize I needed to change.

Here is my plan:

  • Visited a nutritionist – found out everything I liked to eat was bad for me and got some ideas for eating better
  • Track Calories – I”m tracking what I eat. I’m the kind of person if I don’t I’ll go yeah I can eat that and finally figure I ate like 5,000 calories later.
  • Start exercising – I’m still not doing this year but I’m starting with low impact and working my way up. I never really worked out so it can be intimidating to go in and figure out what the hell to do.
  • Reaffirm your self-worth – Just tell yourself that you are working on change and not to internalize the feelings. Depending on who you are this could be harder to do.

Talk to friends about your issues

I think a lot of times we fall off the wagon with anything, not just weight. We have a lot of other issues we don’t want to deal with at all. Mine dealt with a few health issues (nothing serious), money, and career. I opened up to friends and told them everything I was feeling. It made me feel better and I didn’t turn to food or drinking to solve those problems. Let me say that depending on your issue you may not be able to talk to friends but turn to someone. Issues about health (serious issues), sexuality, and gender identity you may need to seek out someone who has been where you are at now.

Push Through Bad Times

I never have anything go to plan. It’s just a fact of life that something will go wrong and there will be setbacks. You just have to push through and keep going. Its hard as hell sometimes, but if you want to accomplish anything you have to keep the momentum going. And don’t punish yourself if you fall off the wagon. Just get up and keep doing what you are doing. If you give up all your hard work will be for nothing. There are many times I ate something and was like “Hell, fuck it now, let’s eat these cookies.”

Reward Yourself for accomplishing goals

I’m the kind of person I need a carrot along the way. I set goals along the way and set up rewards. It could be eating something I really love or doing something. Celebrate the journey. If I have one giant goal, I get more frustrated about reaching it. However, if it set up smaller goals along the way. It will make you feel like you are accomplishing what you set your mind too.

This may all sound “Pollyanna” and Sunshine. Just know I’m one of the most “glass half empty” people you will ever meet. Even the glamorous life of an Underwear Blogger may not go to play (said sarcastically) I just rarely share really personal things and want to open up to you guys more. Thanks for reading guys!

1 Comment responses

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    May 15, 2018

    Thank you for posting this. I also have gone through a very stressful couple of years and have put on weight and not the good kind that comes from building muscle. I used to wear size M but now am comfortable in an XL and some L. I hate it and was about to put all my sexy underwear in a box and say good bye to it until I read this post. Over the past several weeks I have begun to make changes and have lost a few pounds but I needed to decide to love me and a big part of that is wearing sexy and designer underwear. I have bought some different sized that are comfortable and although I am not in love with my body at the moment, I am in love with how the underwear still makes me feel. I have started to walk around the house in my undies like I used to while focusing on my goal and not on my current condition. I will choose to live confidently and I am lucky because I have a spouse that still tells me that she loves my undies. Your post has helped me get to this point and I am grateful for it. I probably will never be a underwear model in my own underwear but that does not mean I can’t feel like one. Love your site and your passion…it is making a difference in many of our lives.

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